We spent New Year's Eve with some friends, having dinner and drinks while the little ones played. At 11:30 pm, Scarlett came down with the stomach bug that has been going around. Why wouldn't she? The poor thing gets everything lately. So I celebrated the ball dropping by snuggling a sick little baby in my bed. Being a parent changes you. There was no where else in the world I would rather be than helping my little one to feel better, new year or not. The truth is, I'm not a huge New Year's person. Of course celebrating it is fun and the thought of a brand new year is refreshing, but I don't ever make New Year's resolutions. I am not really sure why. I guess because in my mind, if I haven't been doing it up until now, how is a holiday going to make me to do it any more than before? In that aspect, every day is really a fresh new beginning to start something or do better.
I saw a few others posting a word/s for the new year. Kind of like a Mantra for the new year. This seems to be more of my style than saying:
I want to cook more. Healthier.
I want to work-out harder.
I want to visit new places.
I want to spend even more undivided quality time with Scarlett.
I want to have more date nights.
I want to have a positive outlook
I started to think about what I would choose for my words for the new year if I had to pick one/s. I could honestly think of a hundred words that I could use. The question is, which words do I want to pursue the most? Which words do I want to pour my heart into? After a lot of consideration and reflection on the past year, I came up with this:
Positivity & Patience.
Something that I have always struggled with is reacting. I am quick to react and slow to listen. More than cooking, working out, or seeing new places, I want to be patient and thoughtful. If only I could stop the quick reactions that usually end in tears or hurt feelings and react with thought and intention. I want every moment to have purpose. In order to react thoughtfully, I must have patience and think positively. This year, I am sure that I will react quickly or lose my patience. I won't set myself up to fail. However, I will use these words as a little reminder to help me remember where my heart is. "Positivity & Patience." In order to live peacefully, I have to let go of the negative thoughts and be patient in every situation, with each person that I encounter, with my Scarlett, with Ty, and even with myself.
Even if you don't believe is New Year's Resolutions, maybe finding a little mantra or a few words of encouragement to keep you on the right track is better than making unrealistic promises to yourself that eventually end up making you feel like a failure. We are human and we will let ourselves down, get side-tracked, become lazy, hurt others and make mistakes. But recognizing those flaws and continuing to grow each year is what makes us better, kinder people.
Happy New Years to you all!!!