tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post3285738499273375989..comments2024-03-02T20:36:16.783-05:00Comments on Lauren Rebecca: Didn't See This Coming.Lauren Rebeccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14889714278207711349noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-16391069231285432582014-01-08T21:09:40.506-05:002014-01-08T21:09:40.506-05:00I just feel like you :( but once someone told me. ...I just feel like you :( but once someone told me. That you cannot have a cake and eat it. That means you cannot have everything at the same time. God have given us angels to take care of them and not some one else do it for us. I have decided to be a full time job mom and sometimes it's hard because I don't feel successful, I don't feel productive at all, etc. and being a mom is not done when kindergarten comes yet. A friend told me that she went to go back to work when her children were 14 years old and I thought that's a long time and fair for you I reply and she said I left them in the most important phase of their life because everything I built up their friends took it away from them. I think I'll never have a full time job. <br />Think about kids go away from home one day and you will have all time just for you. Best, IrisIrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02804213378863261001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-88728772550673553902014-01-08T17:58:49.026-05:002014-01-08T17:58:49.026-05:00Praying you have peace about whatever you decide!Praying you have peace about whatever you decide!Brandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00069593055810301021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-60642770961027976492014-01-08T15:18:21.456-05:002014-01-08T15:18:21.456-05:00I know exactly what you mean. My first daughter wa...I know exactly what you mean. My first daughter was always sick and i felt so guilty leaving her at school... She was just one year old! Now I'm at home because I've just had my second baby and I'm thinking about keeping my first one at home with us.. But you know what? She asks me to go to school! She loves having children to play with and know she knows what to expect from her school days! She started going every day but since I'm at home I bring her to school just three days and even her sickness gets better!<br />PS: I just posted my link here ( I'm a new follower!)<br />http://m-as-me.blogspot.itbarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02989496887238799634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-65891094280257533452014-01-08T13:39:46.497-05:002014-01-08T13:39:46.497-05:00I am a full time employee and I have one son here ...I am a full time employee and I have one son here at home with me and another that lives with his father by no choice of my own that's just the way the cookies crumbled for me.I stayed at home with my first born and I loved it, some days were rough but overall I enjoyed it very much and I know that the bond we have no even though there is a distance has us closer together. It hurts not to watch my oldest son grow because I am living in another state entirely than he does and that is real pain to my heart. I have my little guy that I miss terribly when he is at school but we have to pay the bills it is just financially smart for us to have one person at home. At the end of the day follow your gutt and if staying home is more important TO YOU and your husband can handle the finances on his own than go ahead and stay home, I know that I would love to be close to and get to know my child better. There is always going to be oppourtunity out there, but there is also some that comes once in a lifetime and it seems that that is your crossroads now. I say go with your gutt and do what it tells you, it's never failed me and I am sure that it won't fail you either. If you do decide to take this job that enjoy it and embrace it and know that your little will be just fine. My baby boys and I have a bond that no one else can break even though I do work :) Good luck in your decision!Jeannettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00781229068253735735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-5428012441776509342014-01-08T12:57:58.567-05:002014-01-08T12:57:58.567-05:00This might be a little late, but have you consider...This might be a little late, but have you considered a full time sitter/nanny instead of daycare. I work full-time (Monday-Friday), go to school, and my daughter stays with a sitter during the day (7 am-5 pm). Sometimes they're cheaper than daycare, and you don't run the risk of having your child in constant contact with other kids. <br /><br />My daughter has only been sick a few times, and the lady that watches her takes her on play dates with other children so she still gets that social interaction. Just a thought to consider. :) Good luck in whatever you decide. Raquel Rosenbalmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707385968461875247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-84578949915831982562014-01-08T09:06:23.690-05:002014-01-08T09:06:23.690-05:00Gosh, I don't know what the answer is. It'...Gosh, I don't know what the answer is. It's so difficult knowing when to put the mother in you first or the woman. Good luck with whatever you choose. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14092861590215247818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-81267850071566076682014-01-08T08:39:35.762-05:002014-01-08T08:39:35.762-05:00I'm in the same boat as you are so I'm ver...I'm in the same boat as you are so I'm very hesitant to write ANYTHING....I don't want to guide in you one direction or the other because I myself am SO LOST with what the right thing to do is here... <br /> <br />When my daughter was a little over a year old, I tried the whole work 9-5 while she went to a daycare thing and ended up realizing I wasn't making hardly a DIME after paying for her care... I was like you (and still am!) in that I love having a "schedule" when I wake up every morning. I love staying busy. So.. everyone around me saw that I wasn't doing anything but working to pay for daycare...except me. I was in denial. She cried just like Scarlett does when I took her every morning and it broke my heart leaving her there like that so much so that I would sometimes have to take the "long way to work" with my windows down just to let my eyes dry up. I finally quit. <br /><br />I did sign up to go back to school (which I'm currently doing). I only go twice a week for just a few hours. I've been blessed that her Grandma watches her for me for just that long. I'm to the point where I could probably get a job to get my foot in the door somewhere so that when I get my degree I could just jump right in... the problem is, it's hit me that in just another year she'll be going off to pre-K and I won't be left with the option of staying at home with my precious baby spending countless hours hugging and watching Barney together... I know when that day comes it's going to hit me like a ton of bricks...<br /><br />but it's then that I feel I'll have all the time in the world to work. And it will be here before I know it. So I'm trying to be patient and enjoy this little bit of time I have left with her.<br /><br />I'll be praying for you.. pray for me, too! ;)April @ PolkaDots n' PinkySwearshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11593558977155497732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-72479360465436118932014-01-08T08:35:16.957-05:002014-01-08T08:35:16.957-05:00Lauren, God gave us instincts for a reason. I was ...Lauren, God gave us instincts for a reason. I was just having this convo with my SIL over Christmas break. I too had a job opportunity that was willing to pay for more school for me so they could put me in the position they were grooming me for. I had a 2 year old and just turned 1 year old at the time. I missed my daughter walking for the first time and she was in the same building as me. I thought the stay at home mom feelings/missing my babies would go away. But for me it ate at me every day and it just got harder and harder! I'm certainly not telling you to quit your job. But I am saying in your gut, you know what to do. <br /><br />I ended up quitting my job and cried sad and happy tears all the way home. I was a teacher and had formed a super strong bond with my students, but even that wasn't enough! When I left it felt like the final scene in the book, The Help. We all cried ugly tears. When I walked away that day I felt such a sense of relief. You're absolutely right, you'll never get these years back with your daughter. Once they're gone, they're gone. <br /><br />Good luck mama! I'll be praying for you!Rebecca Maierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17127914027948174309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-18922916787881085352014-01-08T02:52:16.582-05:002014-01-08T02:52:16.582-05:00Follow your heart. Neither choice is better than t...Follow your heart. Neither choice is better than the other and one day she may even be inspired by the work you do or remember the moments she had with mom. Either way, do what makes you happy because happy moms raise happy babies. Good luck. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14402360071757492372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-22012590844254435122014-01-08T00:38:55.033-05:002014-01-08T00:38:55.033-05:00Im so sorry, this is a tough decision. My advice, ...Im so sorry, this is a tough decision. My advice, choose the options that would leave you with no regrets. Ill be praying for you guys and that your sweet baby girl feels 100% betterAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12323271002753103618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1164870395255903310.post-84369559777493489332014-01-07T21:39:10.065-05:002014-01-07T21:39:10.065-05:00Follow you heart and do what you feel it right for...Follow you heart and do what you feel it right for you and your family and either way everything will fall in to place and I know you will be so happy. ♥ ♥ Just a Girl in Love w/ a Soldier ♥ ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/17960909276634771838noreply@blogger.com